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 brio rated 18 months ago - From the page: "Life is all about growth. Healthy plants grow; healthy babies do, too. Growth is a sign of life. When the fern doesnâ€t grow, the owner buys plant food. If the baby doesnâ€t grow, worried parents beeline to the clinic.
What about you? Are you growing, or do you feel like you ...
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- perry2801 rated 18 months ago
- 1. Do my relationships help me grow, or do they trap me in an infinite loop?
Sometimes we can get into a relationship where the other person only wants one thing - and that thing is more. They take, but don't give. They demand, but don't appreciate. They are human parasites. Not a recipe for a healthy, growing life.
But make no mistake - relationships are two-way streets. Both have to give as well as take in order for their to be a mutual benefit. We have to be the change we want to see, setting an example first. To grow together, whether as friends, relatives or mates, you have to be willing to make sacrifices, do the time, and work, work and work. But so do they. It takes two to make a relationship work, and just one to turn it into a smoldering wreck.
3. Do I have habits that stop me from my dreams?
This can be a variety of things: World of Warcraft, solitaire, mall shopping, vicodin, pornography, movies with Elvis as the main actor. All of these have one thing in common: they can be a means to forget about life for a while.
Of course, some habits are downright destructive. Other habits, in their proper place, are ambivalent. In any case, if we allow an activity to replace real personal growth, which includes real suffering, our emotional state becomes stunted. Also, the time we invest in activities with a low or no return rate take away from the time we'd spend doing something more fulfilling.
- jobobo rated 18 months ago
- Where is your life heading? 4 questions to ask yourself
- brio rated 18 months ago
- From the page: "Life is all about growth. Healthy plants grow; healthy babies do, too. Growth is a sign of life. When the fern doesnâ€t grow, the owner buys plant food. If the baby doesnâ€t grow, worried parents beeline to the clinic.
What about you? Are you growing, or do you feel like you are spinning your wheels? Is each day, month or year that passes just like the last one?
Growth is an essential part of a healthy life. People who spend their lives in a rut soon come to regret where their life went.
Life is not like money. You canâ€t accumulate it for later spending. You have to live it right now, or itâ€s gone.
So where is your life heading? Here are four questions you can ask yourself to probe if the way you are living your life will contribute to your long term happiness.
These questions arenâ€t rocket science. They are designed to shake things up and make us aware of the road we are on.
1. Do my relationships help me grow, or do they trap me in an infinite loop?
Sometimes we can get into a relationship where the other person only wants one thing - and that thing is more. They take, but donâ€t give. They demand, but donâ€t appreciate. They are human parasites. Not a recipe for a healthy, growing life.
But make no mistake - relationships are two-way streets. Both have to give as well as take in order for their to be a mutual benefit. We have to be the change we want to see, setting an example first. To grow together, whether as friends, relatives or mates, you have to be willing to make sacrifices, do the time, and work, work and work. But so do they. It takes two to make a relationship work, and just one to turn it into a smoldering wreck.
Donâ€t be afraid to talk straight - if the relationship is salvageable, the truth wonâ€t damage it beyond repair. Donâ€t do name calling, donâ€t say â€oeyou always do THIS”, just state how you feel and why. If the relationship canâ€t handle the truth, then make an assessment. Living a lie kills people inside.
One point: if you are married, donâ€t be in a hurry to end it if things arenâ€t going well. But do be in a hurry to correct problems. Seek professional help if necessary. Try to get the other person on board.
2. Does my job inspire me or defeat me?
Iâ€m not one who subscribes to the notion that what we do at our job defines our being. Iâ€m not big on titles because I feel that it pigeonholes us and makes us more a product than a person. So when someone meets me and asks me about myself, I first focus on things that are not work related.
But I digress. I do know that what we do for a living has a great effect on our identity. Thatâ€s why we have to be sure that what we do is in alignment with our principles and helps us fulfill our dreams.
The answer is crystal clear if there is abuse in the workplace of some sort. Be it a boss, a subordinate, or a co-worker, it will take a toll on your health and future prospects if you do not deal with it quickly.
In any case, if the job isnâ€t working out, and itâ€s unfixable, itâ€s time to develop an exit strategy. Getting out of debt, updating the resume, getting in touch with your contacts, whatever. Or if itâ€s the type of job that youâ€re in, itâ€s time to get some books or take some classes in a type of work that will be more in alignment with your core needs. I recommend a great book on the topic of changing careers outright. Its focus is for older ones, but us Generation Xers can get much from it too.
3. Do I have habits that stop me from my dreams?
Some folks are walking bad habitsThis can be a variety of things: World of Warcraft, solitaire, mall shopping, vicodin, pornography, movies with Elvis as the main actor. All of these have one thing in common: they can be a means to forget about life for a while.
Of course, some habits are downright destructive. Other habits, in their proper place, are ambivalent. In any case, if we allow an activity to replace real personal growth, which includes real suffering, our emotional state becomes stunted. Also, the time we invest in activities with a low or no return rate take away from the time weâ€d spend doing something more fulfilling.
Make a list of your habits. Take a few days to write down exactly what you do every day. Then examine it and ask yourself:
4. THE KEY QUESTION: If things remain as they are for the next five/ten/twenty years, how will I feel?
This is a great question because it clears out the mental nonsense we use to fool ourselves with. Close your eyes and think ahead into the future. If youâ€re twenty, imagine ten years from now. How do you look? How do you feel about yourself then? Is that the person you want to be? When you become that age and you look back, will you feel like smiling or crying?
The point of this is to get thinking now about the future that your actions will create. This is your life. You have to run it. Itâ€s like a car: you can let someone else drive your car, but itâ€s
- tammyk rated 18 months ago
- What's stopping you from living?
From the site:
If things remain as they are for the next five/ten/twenty years, how will I feel?
If you let other people, habits or circumstances run your life, you may be able to blame those things till your face turns blue. But it's not the same as taking charge of your life and doing what is necessary to get to where you really want to go.
- jarufo rated 18 months ago
- Some intersting questions. The real test is whether or not you are brave enough to answer them honestly.
- tapyourheels rated 18 months ago
- I think about this kind of stuff a lot. Probably too much. But this is a good article!
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