Website review: The Power (and Peril) of Praising Y...
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Emmers rated 4 weeks ago- I've known this for years. Being labeled as "gifted" was the worst thing that ever happened to my academic career.
- Ashilia rated 5 weeks ago
- This is an incredibly interesting article. My own experience backs it up. Before fourth grade, I didn't try very hard to do well. Then in fourth grade our class collectively did bad on a test, and my teacher spent a long time telling us how much better we could do if we tried. That pep talk was what motivated me to try hard and be a good student.
- alexion rated 6 weeks ago
- great picture :)
- trespar rated 6 weeks ago
- Nobody should be expected to read slabs of text like this.
- DevilotsAdvocate rated 7 weeks ago
- From DonikaMiller's Review: "Seriously, just treat your kids like people already. They're not magic." I couldn't have said more perfect words.
- pitbull1979 rated 8 weeks ago
- The perfect counter-argument to the purple ink movement, this article uses research and clear results to prove its point. A fascinating read, it compelled my 1st Stumble review.
- perry2801 rated 9 weeks ago
- How Not to Talk to Your Kids The inverse power of praise. "When we praise children for their intelligence," Dweck wrote in her study summary, "we tell them that this is the name of the game: Look smart, don't risk making mistakes." And that's what the fifth-graders had done: They'd chosen to look smart and avoid the risk of being embarrassed. Dweck had suspected that praise could backfire, but even she was surprised by the magnitude of the effect. "Emphasizing effort gives a child a variable that they can control," she explains. "They come to see themselves as in control of their success. Emphasizing natural intelligence takes it out of the child's control, and it provides no good recipe for responding to a failure." In follow-up interviews, Dweck discovered that those who think that innate intelligence is the key to success begin to discount the importance of effort. I am smart, the kids' reasoning goes; I don't need to put out effort. Expending effort becomes stigmatized--it's public proof that you can't cut it on your natural gifts. Sincerity of praise is also crucial. Just as we can sniff out the true meaning of a backhanded compliment or a disingenuous apology, children, too, scrutinize praise for hidden agendas. Only young children--under the age of 7--take praise at face value: Older children are just as suspicious of it as adults. A teacher who praises a child may be unwittingly sending the message that the student reached the limit of his innate ability, while a teacher who criticizes a pupil conveys the message that he can improve his performance even further. New York University professor of psychiatry Judith Brook explains that the issue for parents is one of credibility. "Praise is important, but not vacuous praise," she says. "It has to be based on a real thing--some skill or talent they have." Once children hear praise they interpret as meritless, they discount not just the insincere praise, but sincere praise as well.
- olie25 rated 8 months ago
- I will have to think on what this is saying. I don't want to have my kids to worried about failure to try.
- flyin2fall rated 10 months ago
- ...how to turn your kid into a total brat...
- sclim rated 10 months ago
- It's hard to be the perfect parent and to say the right things all the time. But I guess the important thing is that we try to emphasize that the journey is more important than the end goal.
