Last seen: 12 days ago
Lisa is a 45 year old woman from New Jersey, USA
"I am unwritten... I'm just beginning, the pen's in my hand, ending unplanned..." Natasha Bedingfield. My unwritten pages - my story, my secrets and my dreams... waiting to be revealed.
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From the page: "I like to give my husband a full body massage. After a hard day, he usually isn't too much in the mood for one, so I nearly always surprise him. I light candles around the room and turn out the lights, play a "rest and relaxation" CD a friend gave me, and then I dress in an inviting nightie. My honey will lay down on his tummy a little reluctantly at first, but after the massage begins (using a little baby oil), he starts relaxing. We talk about things that will let him forget his day, and I cater to him as much as I can (if he needs a drink/snack or if he is too warm/cold, etc.). He is particularly excited when I can give him a surprise treat like a cookie, chocolate, or cake."
This made me feel a little sick this morning.
I guess, because I tried it. Yes, indeed, one of the thousands of things I tried over the course of 17 years to save my marriage and get my husband's attention. I had read the book The Surrendered Wife, and I tried the techniques in it. I have to say, it was the best month of the whole 17 years.
But, beware, this method does not work with narcissistic, abusive people. It did for a little while, but the problem is, it's never reciprocated. They expect more and more and more...
The danger is that the victim in these types of relationships is always thinking there is something she can do to "fix" things, and often takes too much responsibility for the problems. So this idea about being "generous" is like telling her to roll over and invite him to hit her again.
Unconditional love has its limits. I can still love him as a human being, but I sure as hell don't have to make him a fucking cake.
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