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'gold as strong as iron,
iron as soft as gold,
and in a sea of sand
a
diamond light so bold'
.ink.
she is my love.
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 Jun 16, 10:27pm  (2 reviews) arts, aliasinkorn, stories, self-development http://www.picturethisgallery.com/Artist...-
The wise old woman said, "The truth I tell for you will change your life. See. Pigs do fly."
A Lesson at Hand
The young man lamented his condition and declared in exasperation, "I have nothing in life!"
The old man replied, "Close your hand! Hold hard."
The young man, jolted by the command, closed his hand.
"Harder."
The young man's knuckles and fingers began to turn white.
"Open!"
He slowly opened his hand.
"Look. You still have nothing. Don't use your life for nothing again."
~ aliasinkhorn
- Stendhal's Four Kinds and Seven Stages of Love | NIGEL BEALE NOTA BENE...
- 10:41pm (1 review) relationships, quote, stendhal, books, love http://nigelbeale.com/2008/10/nb-novel-e...
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The Birth of Love: Seven Stages
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4. Love is born. To love is to enjoy seeing, touching, and sensing with all the senses, as closely as possible, a lovable object which loves in return.
5. The first crystallization ("a certain fever of the imagination which translates a normally commonplace object into something unrecognizable, makes it an entity apart"). If you are sure that a woman loves you, it is a pleasure to endow her with a thousand perfections and to count your blessings with infinite satisfaction. In the end you overrate wildly and regard her as something fallen from Heaven, unknown as yet, but certain to be yours.
Solitude and leisure are necessary. Leave a lover with his thoughts for twenty-four hours, and this is what will happen: At the salt mines of Salzburg, they throw a leafless wintry bough into one of the abandoned workings. Two or three months later they pull it out covered with a shining deposit of crystals. The smallest twig, no bigger than a tom-tit's claw, is studded with a galaxy of scintillating diamonds. The original branch is no longer recognizable.What I have called crystallization is a mental process which draws from everything that happens new proofs of the perfection of the loved one.No sooner do you think of a virtue than you detect it in your beloved....but his attention is still liable to wander after a time because one gets tired of anything uniform, even perfect happiness. This is what happens next to fix the attention:
6. Doubt creeps in. First a dozen or so glances, or some other sequence of actions, raise and confirm the lover's hopes. Then, as he recovers from the initial shock, he grows accustomed to his good fortune, or acts on a theory drawn from the common multitude of easily won women. He asks for more positive proofs of affection and tries to press his suit further.7.The second crystallization, which deposits diamond layers of prove that 'she loves me'. Since love casts doubt upon what seemed proven before, the woman who was so certain, before intimacy, that her lover was entirely above vulgar promiscuity, no sooner remembers that she has nothing left to refuse him than she trembles lest he has merely been adding another conquest to his list. Only at this point does second crystallization begin, and much more strongly, since it is now accompanied by fear.
7. Every few minutes throughout the night which follows the birth of doubt, the lover has a moment of dreadful misgiving, and then reassures himself, 'she loves me'; and crystallization begins to reveal new charms. Then once again the haggard eye of doubt pierces him and he stops transfixed. He forgets to draw breath and mutters, `But does she love me?' Torn between doubt and delight, the poor lover convinces himself that she could give him such pleasure as he could find nowhere else on earth. It is the pre-eminence of this truth, and the road to it, with a fearsome precipice on one hand and a views of perfect happiness on the other, which set the second crystallization so far above the first. The lover's mind vacillates between three ideas: She is perfect. She loves me. How can I get the strongest possible proofs of her love?
Stendhal
On Love
- Intimacy Gender Differences &Intimacy Love Gender
- 10:15pm (1 review) psychology, love, gender-differences, relationships http://www.safemenopausesolutions.com/in...
There ARE intimacy gender differences between women and men...
From the page: "... Attraction to another person can be considered in these four ways and stages - emotional, mental, physical and spiritual.
Intimacy gender differences #1
One of the intimacy gender differences occurs with the kind of initial attraction that happens. Women are initially attracted to a man in the mental attraction way. It happens in her mind. She finds him interesting and likes the way he does one or more things. It may be the way he smiles, how he writes, how he speaks to another person, or the success he has made professionally.
There will be quite a few men that a woman can be attracted to in this way in the first stage.
Men, on the other hand, are initially attracted to a woman in the physical way. He will especially like certain physical features about her - her hair, her breasts, her legs, her body shape or how she walks, for example.
Intimacy gender differences #2
Women moving into the second stage are attracted to a man emotionally because of his personality. She may be attracted to him because he is funny and entertaining. He may be the quiet and more serious type, or he could be a take-charge kind of man.
If a woman knows herself, she'll know what kinds of personalities she will tend to prefer and enjoy the most.
A man moving into the second stage of attraction will also be attracted to a woman emotionally because of her personality. While the man might be the playful type, he may be attracted to a more serious woman. He could be a shy person who's attracted to a bolder, more confident woman.
Intimacy gender differences #3
Another of the intimacy gender differences occurs once a woman has been attracted to a man mentally and emotionally. She can now begin to move into the third stage which is physical attraction.
Being physically near the man, touching, holding and kissing are all very pleasurable for a woman that has experienced the first two stages of attraction.
The third stage for a man will be to become mentally attracted to the woman that he's been physically and emotionally attracted to. Not only does he enjoy touching her physically and her friendship and company, he now wants to know who she really is.
Certain aspects of her character will be intriguing to him - her kindness, her generosity, her maturity or confidence or openness and so on.
Intimacy gender differences #4
If a woman has experienced the first three stages of attraction, she's able to reach stage four - spiritual attraction. She now can fall in love with this man. Having been through the mental, emotional and physical attraction stages, spiritual attraction can now happen.
It's possible that there may be several men she would feel are lovable. In her heart, though, she'll begin to realize and come to know that HE is the man that she is meant to be with.
For the man who has gone through the first three stages of attraction - physical, emotional and mental - he too can now be open to falling in love with this woman. He too can feel that there may be several women that are lovable, but deep inside - he knows SHE is the right woman for him.
Intimacy gender differences #5
Another of the intimacy gender differences is related to emotional needs. A woman is happiest and most fulfilled when she feels her needs are being met by her partner. At the top of the list of needs for a woman is that she needs to feel that she is being listened to and heard by her partner.
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He needs to feel admired by the woman in his life - his strength, his humor, his kindness or his abilities. He also needs to feel that she accepts him without trying to change him. Even though both know he's not perfect ..."
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- News For Growing Christians - What Atheists dont want you to know about...
- 6:34pm (2 reviews) history, atheists, religion, spirituality, mark-twain http://ministryvalues.com/index.php?opti...
What Atheists don't want you to know about Mark Twain's secret
From the page: " Mark Twain believed in the supernatural, apparitions, and loved a Catholic Saint.
Mark Twain, to the surprise of almost everyone, wrote a book, a biography no less, about the life and times of Joan of Arc. The book is call the "Personal Recollections of Joan of Ark" and astonishingly he called this virtually unknown volume his "best and favorite work".
"Thanks for your letter regarding my book, The Miracle Detective. I was simultaneously stirred and chagrined by what you wrote about Mark Twain and his Joan of Arc book. I have to admit that I was among those who did not know that Twain had authored such a book, let alone that he considered it his most important work."
There are intriguing reasons why most folks are unaware of the beliefs of Mark Twain, but first here are the remarkable words from Mark Twain about a book he wrote about a Catholic Saint.
"I like Joan of Arc best of all my books; and it is the best; I know it perfectly well. And besides, it furnished me seven times the pleasure afforded me by any of the others; twelve years of preparation, and two years of writing. The others needed no preparation and got none."
Mark Twain admired, maybe even venerated "Joan of Arc" and he was transfixed by the amazing spiritual events experienced by the young French virgin who called herself "Joan the Maid"
Mark Twain spent twelve years researching and writing his book.
Twain went to the National Archives of France and read through the transcripts of the trial that ended in Joan's martrydom, as well as the inquisition -- held 25 years after her death -- that cleared her name. He studied both English and French accounts of the French heroine, and concluded, in an essay(read the entire essay here) he wrote in 1904 that Joan was the "Wonder of the Ages," an individual "stainlessly pure, in mind and heart, in speech and deed and spirit." ..."
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- Saint Joan of Arc by Mark Twain
- 6:30pm (1 review) history, literature, joan-of-arc, mark-twain http://www.catholic-forum.com/saints/stj...
Saint Joan of Arc by Mark Twain
From the page: "... when insultingly asked at her trial why it was her standard (The standard depicts the Virgin Mary and two angels) had a place at the crowning of the King in the Cathedral of Rheims rather than the standards of the other captains, she uttered that touching speech, "It had borne the burden, it had earned the honor" -- a phrase which fell from her lips without premeditation, yet whose moving beauty and simple grace it would bankrupt the arts of language to surpass ..."
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- Should linking be illegal? | Dan Kennedy | Comment is free |...
- 6:19pm (2 reviews) internet, copyright, blogs, news-media, linking http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/...
Should linking be illegal?
In a misguided attempt to aid newspapers, one of America's most influential judges is suggesting a new copyright law
From the page: "... Posner's opinion on copyright - expressed, thankfully, in a blog post rather than a ruling from the bench - has its roots in a celebrated essay he wrote for the New York Times Book Review in 2005 called Bad News. Although Posner was complimentary toward bloggers, and even asserted that their swarm-like verification system was superior in some ways to that of the traditional media, he nevertheless offered a few withering observations about where they get their material.
"The bloggers are parasitical on the conventional media," Posner wrote. "They copy the news and opinion generated by the conventional media, often at considerable expense, without picking up any of the tab. The degree of parasitism is striking in the case of those blogs that provide their readers with links to newspaper articles. The links enable the audience to read the articles without buying the newspaper."
Posner comes across as willfully blind to the ways in which bloggers and aggregators actually drive traffic to news sites, resulting in more readers seeing their content and, thus, their advertising. Yes, there are ways not to do it - the Boston Globe's wholesale, automated aggregation of a competitor's local content in a case settled out of court earlier this year comes to mind. But normal linking practices benefit everyone. The news business may be cratering, but it's not the fault of those who link to newspaper content.
Fortunately, Posner this time can't transform his desires into a judicial decree - his proposal would have to enacted in the form of an amendment to the copyright law. Unfortunately, such an idea is already making the rounds. Not to go all Kevin Bacon here, but Cleveland Plain Dealer columnist Connie Schultz, who supports it, is married to Democratic senator Sherrod Brown, which led Jeff Jarvis to demand that Schultz register as a federal lobbyist.
The thing is, Congress has been known to act with great alacrity on copyright matters when they affect corporate interests. And newspaper owners have been remarkably successful in calling attention to their plight ..."
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- Michelangelo signed fresco with self-portrait - Telegraph
- 6:13pm
 (1 review) history, renaissance, arts, michelangelo http://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/art/a...
Michelangelo signed fresco with self-portrait
A painstaking five-year restoration of a massive fresco painted by Michelangelo in the Vatican has revealed what experts believe is a self-portrait of the Renaissance genius.
From the page: "Restorers claim that a bearded man wearing a blue turban in the Crucifixion of St Peter bears a striking resemblance to portraits and bronze busts of the artist.
"It's an extraordinary and moving discovery," said the Vatican's chief restorer, Maurizio De Luca. "The self-portrait is one of three knights on the left-hand top corner of the fresco who wears a lapis lazuli blue turban. His features are very similar to other known portraits of Michelangelo."
The fresco shows the moment at which St Peter was raised on the cross by Roman soldiers, his face showing suffering but also defiance.
It is not the first time the renowned Italian master included his portrait in one of his works.
He painted a cleverly disguised self-portrait into The Last Judgment in the Sistine Chapel.
His face appears in a ghoulish image of St Bartholomew, with the saint holding a knife and his skin after it has been flayed from his body.
The Vatican spent more than three million euros (£2.6 million) restoring the Crucifixion of St Peter along with another important fresco, the Conversion of Saul.
Completed between 1542 and 1550, they were the last frescoes Michelangelo ever painted.
"After the Pauline Chapel he ended his life as a painter and dedicated himself only to sculpture and architecture," said Mr De Luca.
The frescoes adorn either side of the Pauline Chapel, which is closed to the public and used only by the Pope and his closest entourage.
The chapel, in the Vatican's Apostolic Palace, was commissioned by Pope Paul III in 1537 and completed in 1540.
Michelangelo began work on the Pauline Chapel murals in 1542 after he had finished the work in the Sistine Chapel, finishing the project at the age of 75."
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- 6:02pm (1 review) http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3057/2833...
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Blue Song
I am tired.
I am tired of speech and of action.
If you should meet me upon the
street do not question me for
I can tell you only my name
and the name of the town I was
born in-but that is enough.
It does not matter whether tomorrow
arrives anymore. If there is
only this night and after it is
morning it will not matter now.
I am tired. I am tired of speech
and of action. In the heart of me
you will find a tiny handful of
dust. Take it and blow it out
upon the wind. Let the wind have
it and it will find its way home.
~ Tennessee Williams
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- 4:30pm (1 review) poetry, flickr, love, poems, neruda http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3604/3575...
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The Light Wraps You
The light wraps you in its mortal flame.
Abstracted pale mourner, standing that way
against the old propellers of the twilight
that revolves around you.
Speechless, my friend,
alone in the loneliness of this hour of the dead
and filled with the lives of fire,
pure heir of the ruined day.
A bough of fruit falls from the sun on your dark garment.
The great roots of night grow suddenly from your soul,
and the things that hide in you come out again
so that a blue and pallid people,
your newly born, takes nourishment.
Oh magnificent and fecund and magnetic slave
of the circle that moves in turn through black and gold:
rise, lead and possess a creation
so rich in life that its flowers perish
and it is full of sadness.
~ Pablo Neruda
- People Unsure of Beliefs Are More Close-Minded - Yahoo! News
- Jul 2, 10:00pm (7 reviews) psychology, beliefs, open-mindedness, closed-mindedness http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/2009...
People Unsure of Beliefs Are More Close-Minded
From the page: "People who are less confident in their beliefs are more reluctant than others to seek out opposing perspectives, researchers said today.
The findings, which are based on a review of more than 90 studies, shed light on the debate over whether people intentionally steer clear of views conflicting with their own, or whether they are just exposed more often to ideas that conform to their own.
The former seems to be the case. Another recent study revealed that college students gravitated toward news that fit their views.
While it's not news that like-minded people often flock together, the new review suggests we actively keep our blinders on when opposing views are nearby. The review is detailed this month in the journal Psychological Bulletin.
Some more so than others ...
Overall, the studies suggested people are about twice as likely to cherry-pick information that supports their own viewpoints than to consider an opposing idea. Nearly 70 percent cherry-picked compared to about 30 percent who ponder the other side.
Close-minded individuals opted for information that went along with their views 75 percent of the time.
"Close-minded people are very certain and dogmatic in their views, and generally believe that there is a single correct point of view," said study researcher Dolores Albarracin, a psychology professor at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. "The implication is that you have a group of people who would only seek to confirm their points of view, resisting all evidence to the contrary via avoidance of exposure."
And since even a slight breeze could flatten a house of cards, the researchers found people with little confidence in their own beliefs are less likely to expose themselves to contrary views compared with their confident counterparts. In fact, another recent study showed that people with stronger party affiliation and greater interest in politics were more likely to read articles with opposing views.
The new study, however, found politics can prompt blinders: People are more reluctant to look at different viewpoints regarding political, religious or ethical values, the studies showed. Specifically, study participants stuck with their own ideas 70 percent of the time when it came to issues of moral values or politics, compared with 60 percent for other issues.
"If you are really committed to your own attitude - for example, if you are a very committed Democrat - you are more likely to seek congenial information, that is, information that corresponds with your views," Albarracin said.
Political and moral views are more open to personal interpretation anyway, than for example some scientific concept. "Political and moral issues are more inherently a personal judgment," Albarracin told LiveScience. "There is no risk of experiencing the effects of being inaccurate as you have in science. Hence people are free to seek information that confirms their attitudes pretty exclusively." ... "
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