Social Needs - our need for interaction and contact with...
What makes a good relationship good?
Laughter: the best medicine for my relationship?
Positive behavior: The difference between rewarding and...
To Spank or not to spank…that is the question…
5 tips to creating a successful marriage
10 Signs that Your Relationship is Progressing
Introducing your new partner to your children
What are the signs that your marriage is in trouble?
In today's society we are bombarded with information and self-help books on how to have healthy relationships. Some of these books share their
Ek, My Tyd en My Huwelik
Teen die tyd dat jy almal; uiteindelik; in die kar het en vasgegordel het…vir die tweede keer - want een van hulle het n kosblik of n b
Why is sleep important for children
Empowering parents with knowledge regarding the importance of sleep and why a good night's sleep is not only important for children, but for p
Teach children how to communicate healthily and effectively...
Healthy and effective communication between parent and child is a great way of ensuring that communication channels remain open. So really focus on
Play therapy with couples
We all know that playing is an important part of childhood and learning, but can play also be potentially valuable to adults….? My answer is
Dealing with toxic relatives over the holidays
There are people who make it their soul purpose in life to ruin yours and this would definitely be a toxic relative, on the other hand we have famil
The potential impact of modern technology on the development...
As a play therapist I don't necessarily have a problem with children having access to the internet, social networks and cell phones. My concer
What to consider before adopting a child
It most definitely is a lifelong process, but I think prospective adoptive parents can prepare effectively by educating themselves better on the iss
The Challenges of Single Parenting
Raising children is a challenge for all parents. Unfortunately there is no book that teaches you how to be the perfect parent. I believe that parent
Raising children through a divorce or separation
There is no easy way to deal with this - it's emotional and it's scary even for you as adult. Most important thing to definitel
Communicate Emotions rather than Issues
When you're angry, hurt or frustrated, the immediate natural instinctive reaction is to self-defend or launch a brutal attack of your own. But if yo
Love Languages - Acts of service - By Tondani Mukhanu
Acts of Service is one of the 5 Love Languages that Dr. Gary Chapman describes in his book. This love language is all about making the person feel l
Why Premarital Counselling and what is discussed
During premarital counselling; we teach you a very practically applicable toolset or skill set, that you can use to navigate your relationship to th
Forgiveness; Starts With A Choice - Article 2
The one thing that has stood out for me these couple of weeks is the fact that; everyone agrees and understands that forgiveness is, in actual fact,
What is Sincere Forgiveness - Article 1 - Forgiveness Series...
Everyone at many different points in their lives, will either have to ask forgiveness or be in a position where they have to decide whether or not to
Introduction - Forgiveness Series
One of the biggest mistakes we as individuals make in relationships is that we often fail to realise that the person we are involved with is a human
Wat het ons in verhoudings nodig om gelukkig te wees?
Ons wil dit nie altyd erken nie, maar al ons verhoudings is egter behoefte gedrewe. Ons sal nie met iemand in ‘n verhouding tree, hetsy r
What do children really need to be happy?
As a play therapist I often ask myself the question "What can I give each child that I see?" and "What do they really need to be happy?" When we thi
The Difference Between The Vita Nova Positive Discipline...
We can very easily forgive people for assuming that our system is just another reward chart; there are so many out there already, so we don't
Is onvoorwaardelike liefde in 'n huwelik moontlik?
Liefde is alles behalwe `n blote gevoel. Liefde is `n keuse, dit is `n besluit wat jy elke dag opnuut moet neem, veral wanneer dit swaar gaan! Liefd
When your child is the bully, the one branded "naughty"
Often, though, we find that parents seem to be very loving and attentive caregivers, but still have a child who acts out at school; in this case the
Love Languages - The Gift Of Giving - By Tondani Mukhanu...
According to the Thesaurus dictionary; a gift is something that is bestowed voluntarily and without compensation. Hence it is clear that a gift shou
Love Languages - Words of Affirmation - By Tondani Mukhanu...
Think of this as a way of expressing love emotionally because words speak to the soul. Tell your partner how much you love him/her, how much you app
Raising Teenagers In A Promiscuous Society
In families where children are abandoned, ignored or emotionally, sexually or physically abused - the children are left with very poor self-es
Love Languages - Quality Time in a Relationship
"Quality time" is an informal reference to time spent with loved ones; such as close family, partners or friends that is in some way important, spec
Children and Self-Image
For A young child, what my mommy and daddy think of me and my abilities - that's the truth. So I believe everything they say and think. If they say
Change - The Finger
The easiest thing ever to do in a relationship, be it a friendship, be it a marriage or a couple who have been together for some time, is to point t
Asking for things and getting them
Are there things you have wanted for a long time but still do not have? Think for a moment it may be something as simple as a cupboard door fixed, n
Wat is spelterapie met kinders?
"Wat is ‘n spelterapeut? Help jy kinders met spelling?" is vragies wat ek gereeld in my praktyk hoor. Die konsep van spel kan verwarrend wees
Marriage Counselling In Pretoria
Routine in the family: A necessity in the development of...
As individuals some of us don't like routine and find it boring and predictable. Children however need the predictability and safety that a rout
A collection of articles, covering topics of Communication, Needs, Relationships and topics related to the field of counselling.
Quality conversation - What is it?
Don't listen to your spouse while doing something else. Quality time is giving someone your undivided attention. If you are doing something you are ke
Love Languages - Physical Touch - By Tondani Mukhanu
In the field of linguistics a single language might have five different dialects and likewise the love language of physical touch can be expressed in
Little Ways to Find Happiness
Dr. Laura Markham > Parenting Your Strong-Willed Child
Have a strong-willed child? You're lucky! Strong willed children can be a challenge to parent when they're young, but if sensitively parented, they become terrific teens and young adults. Self-motivated and inner-directed, they go after what they w...
I start off by medicating the symptoms myself for a few days and try not to run too quickly to the doctor. I don't want to seem like a hypochondriac m
WHEN A CHILD GETS RAPED
The child might not remember the incident, but it has definite negative effects on the child's development. Childhood trauma is more damaging to young
How To Handle Your Mother In Your Marriage
Often times the meddling or over involvement is fuelled by one of the partners in the relationship -your husband might, for example be struggl
26 Things No One Warned You About Being a Parent
Many, many mornings at 5:30 a.m., you will spend inordinate amounts of time bargaining with God for just one more hour of sleep.
What is Theraplay and how can it benefit my child?
As a play therapist it is my goal to help children cope with trauma in a way that makes them feel safe and understood. In my opinion Theraplay gives m
First day at Pre-School
The trick to that first big day is to keep OUR emotions out the way so that our children are able to fully express theirs. How do we do this when we a
Keeping secrets in a relationship
If it is a secret that has a direct impact on your partner, I feel it is your responsibility to come clean; regardless of what you fear your partner&r
Parents and homework…in Grade 1
But nothing can really prepare you for that first term. Not only are our children getting a lot of work in the classroom, but they also have to get in
The importance of positive thinking in a relationship
I don't believe that the power of positive thoughts has the ability to trump all other factors in play. I don't for one moment believe tha
Emotional Child Assessment: A valuable tool in understanding...
That is why it is very important to explore the information that the child gives to you and not to assume or to analyse. I've had a parent bring me he
School Readiness, Play Therapy & Counselling For Children...
Play... Only reserved for children?
Can you remember the last time you had child like fun? Like playing in the mud and getting dirty? As adults we get so busy with life that we forget to
Die rol van troeteldiere in jou kind se lewe
Ek besef dat alle kinders nie die voorreg het om troeteldiere te hê nie en dat daar sekerlik redes is waarom hulle dit nie kan he nie, maar ek w
THOUGHTS ON KIDS
Personal Finance Software for Married Couples
How to keep the love alive in a relationship
I see quite a number of people who want things back to "the way they were" when they just started their relationship; and I get very
66 - Various relationships
How to win every argument in a relationship
Redefine what "winning an argument means". Is winning an argument what happens when I can prove you wrong, when I can throw the most dirt&
Keep your hands on the wheel and your eyes on the road!
This morning, as I was driving back from dropping my daughter off at school, I drove past a guy who was busy - get this; reading his newspaper w
Marriage Counselling, The Internet and Social Media
The lack of communication is the single biggest cause for divorce and account for almost 70% of all breakdowns in a marriage relationship.
Your Child And Learning
I would suggest you choose a Learning Development Program that helps your child to develop both the left and right brain functions; thus enabling the
Having the dreaded birds and bees conversation with your...
One of which is the dreaded birds and bees conversation. When I thought about why I'm dreading it so much, I realised that it's not really the convers
Sibling Rivalry by Anri van den Berg
Between 18 months and 2 years old, for example, a child has a deep seated need to do things for him or herself, and if an older brother or sister, who