this is a great read.
this is a great read.
interesting companion piece to my previous stumble...
From the page: "One of the most significant difficulties (and opportunities) about pro-feminist men's work is that it challenges homosocial norms. Pro-feminist men are often characterized as "wimps" -- soft, gentle men with submissive natures. Actually, pro-feminist men who work to match their language and their lives have to be remarkably brave. Few things are more difficult than speaking up against sexism in all-male environments! To do so is to risk anger (and in a few areas, perhaps violence) and ostracism. In most contemporary Western cultures, there is a strong code that declares that men don't criticize their fellows' attitudes towards women and gender. Given the intense desire for male approval that most young men have, it scarcely seems likely that many will feel comfortable taking feminist positions in all-male environments!"
Interesting post. What may be just as interesting to note is that women also could be accused of committing the same type of behavior. On the one hand, suggesting that they are indeed supportive of the feminst ideal, and on the other (especially away from a group of other supportive feminists) speaking in ways that undermine the concepts of feminism. We all have our needs to be socially accepted, and even for women this may include bashing our own gender if it means not being seen as too weak or too "girly". I'm not sure if what I'm saying makes sense--or if others have experienced this, but it is something I try to be aware of.
I like reading about feminism from a male perspective, and I wasn't familiar with this concept by name, so this article was certainly an interesting read.
i hadn't payed much attention to this type of behavior, but now that i think about it, it's hard to deny.
haha, knowing is half the battle.
The idea that men try and impress other men more than they try and impress women is certainly an interesting one which does seem to have some merit. While reading this, I got to thinking how this relates to women. On the surface, it appears that it's quite the opposite- that women are desperately trying to gain the approval of men by flaunting sex. However, if you look a bit closer, women are incredibly concerned with what other women think. We dress a certain way, and act a certain way, so as to fit in with other women and to avoid catty criticism from each other.
Interesting to hear another view on the behaviour of catcalling and demeaning women in public. It is still horribly uncomfortable and can be downright threatening to women who endure such public humiliation. I wish the author well in promoting a clearer understanding this behaviour and finding new possibilities for men to behave more positively towards women.
A male feminist's interesting point of view...