According to Frankl, we can discover meaning in life in three different ways: (1) by doing a deed; (2) by experiencing a value " nature, a work of art, another person, i.e., love; (3) by suffering.[4
On the meaning of suffering, Frankl gives the following example:
Once, an elderly general practitioner consulted me because
of his severe depression. He could not overcome the loss
of his wife who had died two years before and whom he had loved above all else.
Now how could I help him? What should I tell him? I refrained from telling him anything, but instead confronted him with a question, "What would have happened,
Doctor, if you had died first, and your wife would have had to survive you?:"
"Oh," he said, "for her this would have been terrible; how she would have suffered!" Whereupon I replied, "You see, Doctor, such a suffering has been spared her, and it is you who have spared her this suffering; but now, you have to pay for it by surviving and mourning her." He said no word but shook my hand and calmly left the office.Viktor Frankl