when I was 23 I was on the top of a double decker bus in the east end of London, I was feeling very down and homesick, I listened to a conversation between two old cockney ladies discussing their grand children were were going down the path to an unhappy life. One lady said well she has just chosen to be miserable. In this life you can choose to be happy or unhappy and she just chooses to be miserable. the conversation always stayed with me and I have finally realised 20 years later the wisdom of that remark. These quotations sum up that .